I’m going to use my life experiences to help people so they know how to recognize psychopaths are among us. The bulk of them are not the killers you see on tv, KNOW THIS. The bulk of psychopaths are stealthy con artists who use you and anyone they can for their own personal gain no matter the cost. They lack empathy and imitate normal people emotions and facial expressions. Psychopaths are highly intelligent people and they may even downplay this to make you feel that you have the upper hand. Psychopaths are predatory people who prey on everyone around them. “It’s a control thing” as a psychopath told me.
Those with charisma attract people have a host of family and friends who have no idea that they are all being used as pawns. The moment one of those family members or friends does something that the psychopath doesn’t like, they’ll see the psycho’s true colors.
Those that are hysterical, usually female psychopaths, are not as charismatic so they may have family and friends who are not as close knit with them. People who know them tend to gravitate away from them because it is more obvious that this type of psycho only contacts you when he or she wants something. This kind of psychopath has driven those close to him or her away because they blow the smallest things completely out of proportion, hence the term hysterical personality.
Both types tend to be highly narcissistic (narcissistic personality disorder) or full of themselves and will debase others to make themselves feel better. The more narcissistic the psychopath the more openly he or she will pick at or joke on others. The less confident psychopath will resort to underhanded meanness such as smiling in your face while dissing you behind your back, trying to secretly taunt you, and lying to people about you to defame your character. The lies are used to make you seem crazy and so that the psychopath can fool others into believing that he or she is the victim. Unfortunately, others tend to blindly believe these lies rather than seeking out the truth for themselves; they too are being victimized and manipulated.
At the heart of a psychopath there is hate, fear, obsession, power, jealousy, and inadequacy. There is a thin line between love & hate and a thin line between hate and fear. Perverted love is obsession which can lead to hate. Extreme fear leads to an aversion of someone or something which causes a person to hate. Psychopaths are power hungry and always want to be number one so any attributes you have that challenge this will cause them to be extremely jealous of you. If you are more intelligent than him or if your weight management plans are more successful than hers the psychopath will be jealous and will hate you for it. Your success makes a psychopath feel inadequate and inferior so he or she hates you even more. Whereas a person with a healthy self image will use your success as an example and as encouragement to push harder.
Psychopaths are never happy for other people and will downplay your success even if you are family. For instance, if you start to use or sell a product and it really starts to work or catch on with others, the psychopath will publicly bash what you’re doing to attempt to hurt you. This is because the psychopath has incredibly low self esteem but they don’t want us to know that. As long as you feed their ego they will act nice towards you and even reward you for it. That’s right I said REWARD you like a master does to a good pet. They want to train you to be under their control. Recognize this! Healthy people encourage each other and they want the whole team to succeed. Hurt people hurt people and happy people help people!
Often times a psychopath will praise you or offer fake encouragement first then do or say the complete opposite of that. That serves to confuse and befuddle you so that you will doubt yourself when your brain starts to recognize that something is up. Your whole world becomes topsy turvy and you question everybody even those who mean you well. They try to turn you against people who can help you. When confronted the psychopath lashes out by using projection. He or she will blame you for ruining the relationship and accuse you of doing exactly what they are doing.
The best way to deal with a psychopath is to cut off ALL contact, ALL CONTACT. They usually get bored and move on to their next “toy”. But in extreme cases once he or she realizes that they can no longer control you they will resort to cyber bullying and cyber stalking. Cyber bullying is attacking you overtly or covertly through social media so as to embarrass you in front of others. Cyber stalking is using computer hacking skills to steal your passwords or watch your every move online and use it against you. Psychopaths have to resort to these tactics once you have made it clear that you will not accept their calls, texts, or any other advances they make.
Beyond this the psychopath may become even more emboldened and attempt to come by your house or job unannounced. He or she may even sit outside your house and watch you or use an accomplice to get close to you. He or she will even hire a person to date or court you just so they can control who you deal with. If they can’t have you no one else will so they sabotage your love life so you have none or make sure that it is not a real one.
Psychopaths are literally crazy and will go to the extreme to get what they want. Everything they do publicly is an act to boost only themselves. They may even scam their own church just to raise money for their own personal use. If you could be a fly on the wall or if you are someone whom they believe doesn’t know any better, you could see that they rarely smile when alone. The corners of their mouths are usually turned down even when they smile. If you catch them off guard you may notice their still or blank faces. They look through you not at you. They are amazing liars so pay attention to gestures and actions rather than their words. They have no conscience or control of their anger and this makes them volatile and dangerous. Break all ties if you can or do your best to limit contact if you have to deal with them.
I have experienced this and am still dealing with some of the sneaky little scams so I want y’all to be able to recognize the signs and become aware like I have. If there is a psychopath in your life who refuses to stay away from you get a restraining order. Nobody has the right to dominate you. They are not concerned with your well being so don’t worry about sending them to jail if you have to. This is a dangerous, evil person who will harm you directly or even the people closest to you just to regain your attention.
God gave us instincts so we can better protect ourselves, trust them!